The threat of force is not an actual threat, but one of being 'banjected' from the region.
It's a very weak and practically useless threat. People are much more likely to leave on their own anyways. See, unlike the real world, in nationstates we almost have complete freedom of movement. Certain regions may be passworded, but nothing can ever prevent you from leaving your region.
Related to that, on the internet everyone is, essentially, perfectly free to do whatever they want but equally incapable of forcing other people to do anything. If Poltsamaa, founder of Poltsamaaland, really wanted to, could he force you to do anything? No. He'd have to get you to move there. If his region was a dictatorship it wouldn't seem too appealing.
Then he'd have to get you to not leave this region of Poltsamaa and Digitalis. In the government of Poltsamaa and only Poltsamaa that may be difficult. Most players are pretty apathetic about where their nation ends up anyways, but if they followed you into that region they can just as easily leave. If that happens you're down to the region of just Poltsamaa.
Then he'd have to get you to participate on his offsite forum. In Poltsamaaland, the region of Poltsamaa and Digitalis and no one else, there may seem little reason for Digitalis to invest in registering to an online forum. But let's just say there are more people in the region and Digitalis decides the ten-second registration is bearable. Then what? He could post in the General forums, if there was much worthwhile to post about. He could take an active part in the government, if it wasn't stiffled, a tricky thing to not have happen in a dictatorship.
Something has to encourage him to log in every once in a while. When nobody logs in, you have an empty forum, but one that is under the complete control of Poltsamaa.
Then the final challenge, he has to keep your nation from ceasing to exist. To do this he has to convince you to give enough of a damn to log in.
You'd think that on the internet, without the need or availability for a support structure like thousands of black-clad Stormtroopers, power could be consolidated into one or two people in a greater degree, but that's not true. Power is only getting people to follow you. In this game, and the internet in general, that's pretty much based on how much fun people are having. In NS a lot of that fun comes from participation in general discussion and the political framework of government. Dictatorships aren't much fun. What's the fun in a one-man duchy?
Dictatorships can't thrive. The only government model which can is one which removes obstacles to participation, encourages new membership, proliferates discussion.
Fedele bases his argument on the premise that we live here at the delegate's pleasure, and it is their will which keeps us from being kicked out. I disagree. I'll give him that whoever the founder or delegate is of a region shapes it, but we live here at
our pleasure, and it's our will which keeps us from leaving and keeps us participating.
Basically, what I'm saying is this: We're all here on the internet. None of us is in any way better than the other (i.e. we're all equal across modems). No reason to act like things are the opposite. There's nothing keeping us doing anything; let's do what's fun and maybe other people will decide to play too.
And that's why democracy is the best government.